Fake Growth vs Real Growth - What If You're Just Tricking Yourself?

Fake Growth vs Real Growth - What If You're Just Tricking Yourself?

Published on Feb 28, 2016

Learn to distinguish between real inner growth and fake growth in personal development.

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Sebastian1 year ago

SUMMARY - Actualized - fake growth vs. Real growth People expect from personal dev. To solve there problem Shy guy is looking for the super alpha confident guy, but this will not solve his problem. Man is struggling in business and gets into PD to step his competitors into the ground but this is not how problems get solved To overcome issues it shall become a non issue to you, meaning you are not caring about it anymore. Stop needing what you desire and dont care about it. Dont look for a partner if you want one, dont look for being a alpha male, dont look for being number one competitor. This gives a emotional relief. You know that you overcame an issue if you dont care about it anymore, you get a permanent release of it, you dont overcompensate for it, you stop obsessing about the issue. It will bcome unimportant. Defending against an issue is neurotic. Dismantle all your defenses against the issue. 6:30 True growth means also that there is no longer a need to observe willpowoer over the situation, there is no longer a need to whip yourself into a friensy (?) to do the things you need to do, to do the things that are healthy for you, to be where you want to be. This is neurotic, you notice it when you think you have to work real hard and you are tensed and there is friction, this is no tru growth Test for true growth: look at your emotional responses in challenging situation and you ask yourself: Have my emotinlonal responses improved? If you have less emotional need, if you are calmer in this area, if people press your buttons less, if you dont think obsessively in this area of your life, greal growth has occured. Fake growth is success and achievement You enter PD because you want to fix circumstances but the real growth takes place inside. Achievement vs. Real growth A man who has fear to be poor does not loose his fear because he gets lots of money. A Shy guy who learns pick up stuff has success with women is fake growth. He is still shy inside. A depressed person who finds a new hobby amd feels happy did not solve his depression. He has to look inside lookijg for the why and doing inner work. Take a deep look into your life. Where are you masking deep inner growth with fake growth and success and achievent. Growth happens inside, success outside. Dont get distracted. For real growth you have to completely transform yourself, you have to obliterate yourself, that there nothing left of your own self anymore !Imagine how you wake up in ten years and you cant even imagine how it was being you right now You have to either give up on the idea that you are really happy or that you can preseve yourself. You cant have both. !What vision do you need to have to give up yourself entirely? Real growth is painful, not shiny, so people mostly sell fake growth. Thanks Leo